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Feedback: How do you view it and what do you do with it?

After an interesting discussion the other night on feedback or interpreted by some as criticism.   I am interested to hear how you would perceive it if you were given some feed back, whether it be positive or negative, be it from a horse or a person.  Feedback can be in many different forms –horses are constantly giving you feed back by expression and body language and people are constantly giving you feedback verbally and also with expressional body language.   I discovered how you interpret it and what you do with it that makes all the difference.   4 years ago I got kicked in the leg – which opened it up like a sardine can in the moment I reacted as the victim blaming the guy who was riding the horse for not paying attention to what was happening.  On Reflection it was me who was not paying attention and listening and reading the signs of both the horses the one I was riding and the one that kicked me being ridden by someone else.   Once I was released from hospital – I sought out some feedback from my mentor Ray Hunt on what he thought was the cause of the kicking – he said “ you” “Kellie you deserved it” ok not the feedback I was wanting to hear but none the less I got it I became prickly and defensive, again on reflection he was 100 % correct. Ray honorably pointed out my delusion and in an unbalanced state of mind its not surprising how I reacted. {Consequently I believe if he had supported me in the victim mode I would not have experienced or even seen the true hidden benefits that I did in the moment and in the future.}  Every day I thank him for that challenging feedback as it has had so many hidden benefits that I had chosen not to look for being in my victim state of mind.  Initially my interpretation was “ god are you for real, how insensitive” but I can now see that he was actually caring for me and the horse and by doing that, he was actually assisting my growth in becoming a horsewoman for this I am extremely grateful. Today I can pick a horse a mile of that is going to kick or double barrel and change the horses mind before this happens.  So is any form feedback useful – YES in my opinion its simply how you interpret it and what you do with it that’s the key to fulfillment in life with horses.  How would you endure feedback?

After an interesting discussion the other night on feedback or interpreted by some as criticism.

I am interested to hear how you would perceive it if you were given some feed back, whether it be positive or negative, be it from a horse or a person.

Feedback can be in many different forms –horses are constantly giving you feed back by expression and body language and people are constantly giving you feedback verbally and also with expressional body language.

I discovered how you interpret it and what you do with it that makes all the difference.

4 years ago I got kicked in the leg – which opened it up like a sardine can

in the moment I reacted as the victim blaming the guy who was riding the horse for not paying attention to what was happening.

On Reflection it was me who was not paying attention and listening and reading the signs of both the horses the one I was riding and the one that kicked me being ridden by someone else.

Once I was released from hospital – I sought out some feedback from my mentor Ray Hunt on what he thought was the cause of the kicking – he said “ you” “Kellie you deserved it” ok not the feedback I was wanting to hear but none the less I got it I became prickly and defensive, again on reflection he was 100 % correct. Ray honorably pointed out my delusion and in an unbalanced state of mind its not surprising how I reacted. {Consequently I believe if he had supported me in the victim mode I would not have experienced or even seen the true hidden benefits that I did in the moment and in the future.}

Every day I thank him for that challenging feedback as it has had so many hidden benefits that I had chosen not to look for being in my victim state of mind.

Initially my interpretation was “ god are you for real, how insensitive” but I can now see that he was actually caring for me and the horse and by doing that, he was actually assisting my growth in becoming a horsewoman for this I am extremely grateful.

Today I can pick a horse a mile of that is going to kick or double barrel and change the horses mind before this happens.

So is any form feedback useful – YES in my opinion its simply how you interpret it and what you do with it that’s the key to fulfillment in life with horses.

How would you endure feedback?

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